Online Dating Tips to Stand Out in Her DMs

The 21st century is the digital era. Statistics estimate that by 2024, there are expected to be nearly 280 million online daters, of which 113 million will use matchmaking services and 70 million will use casual dating sites.

With virtual apps, looking for love beyond borders has become the norm. It is how we connect with people internationally with a massive network of potential love interests.

If you want to stand out in the online dating world, try learning how to use online messaging strategies without getting blocked or ignored. Read on to find out online dating tips that can help you stand out.

What does this term mean?

If you’re unfamiliar with the word “DM,” it means “direct message.” Most online users have stumbled upon this term unless they live on a rock, and it has other variations with similar denotations.

Often referred to as a private message or PM, a direct message is a private communication between social media users. Messages sent directly can only be seen by the sender and recipient.

How do you send a DM?

Looking at her profile, you can find this messaging feature on most social media and dating apps. Click on her account's messaging button or logo and type it privately.

This option might be limited if her account is private, if you’re not friends, or if you’re not a follower. Explore how each app functions to your dating advantage in making your first move.

Once you slide into her DM’s, you’ll know if she saw your message or responded by a notification or a blue icon in the chat inbox.

How to write a DM that stands out

The initial DM is essential to get the ball rolling. Your first message to your lady of interest must catch her eye without sounding creepy or corny.

1. Be confident.

Confidence is critical in making your first move and starting your courting process. Believe that you’ve got what it takes to get her attention.

Despite being aware that she might have a lot of other guys contacting her via DM’s, don’t be disheartened if she doesn’t immediately reply.

You must know your worth and not be afraid of rejection. Show her that you have high self-esteem in your tone and writing style to pique her curiosity and interest.

2. Keep it original.

Don’t write cheesy pick-up lines — you don’t want to turn her off with your dad jokes. Have a good sense of humor and keep up with the trends.

Also, avoid writing silly and cringy lines in flirting like “hi, I think you look hot in your red dress *heart eyes and kiss lips emoji*.” She’s probably already read hundreds of those messages from other guys who are stuck in her inbox.

Don’t flood her chatbox by using too many emoticons and memes. They can come across as too childish, as they are typically used by teenagers.

3. Be brief and straight to the point.

Keep your first message short and direct. Stop beating around the bush.

Also, don’t use generic lines that sound scripted. She’ll know if you’re being authentic or are pretending to be someone you’re naturally not.

She will not want to waste her time if you’re unclear about your intentions. Once you feel there is a bit of online chemistry, try asking her out on a date.

4. Proofread before sending it out.

A girl gets more attracted to guys who know how to use words correctly, especially if she’s a grammar nazi. Don’t just rely on the spell checker; improve your vocabulary skills too.

You don’t necessarily need to impress her with superfluous compositions. Your writing must be comprehensive enough and error-free to prove you’re careful with your words.

Coherence is essential for effective communication. Some apps don’t have any “unsend” option, and you won’t be able to delete your mistakes once you hit the send button.

5. Prepare an attractive profile.

Once you send her a DM and grab her attention, she’ll probably check your profile. So, use a decent-looking profile picture.

Also, post stuff that makes you stand out, including your hobbies, travels, or social activities. Don’t share posts with green jokes on your feed.

How do you keep her interested?

Be a high-value man and stay secure in your life. Don’t put her on a pedestal.

You may respond to her texts, but keep it in moderation. Hence, she’ll crave more of your attention and scroll past other guys.

This story was originally published on Medium: Online Dating Tips to Stand Out in Her DMs